This is a tiny fragment of a discussion that lasted several years. Since you obviously saw only this tiny fragment, I sort of understand where you are coming from when it comes to qualia.

https://medium.com/@senderspike/what-color-is-red-2c7cf7cb40db

As for the rest (black holes and life as parasitic existence), it's certainly not my problem that you cannot comprehend the arguments I provided -- Google and everyday empirical observation are your friends.