"There's a cultish fringe of Judaism which has outsized influence, especially in Israel, I think, but the bulk of Jews are more like secular humanists."

I think the same can be said about Christians where I live. Were it not for churches and occasional Jehovah witness knocking at my door, I would not know there are Christians in my vicinity. I guess, that's one of the brighter results of so-called communist regimes that reigned in CEE until recently.

"Are you Jewish too?"

Technically/legally no. Genetically and culturally partly. A bastard, if you will :D