"self realization cannot be an experience"

Exactly. It is not an experience. Experience may precede it (see the third paragraph), or it may come when the mind tries to make some sense of it afterwards. But neither of those experiences is "it."

"How do you get something that you cannot experience?"

Well, you cannot get it. You already "have it" because you are "it." You just have to recognize that -- hence the word "realization."

"I don’t know how to jump."

No one knows and no one can. All what you can do is to make yourself available to eventually fall into yourself, so to speak. The only acts we know of and can perform (that are conductive to self-realization) have to do with simply being available to it.

"when you try to sort of look ‘inward’ you only see Whats in front of you. So experience keeps ‘you’ in its domain"

Spot on! So, when you set all experiences aside (deep sleep included) what remains?